Love.  It’s right up there with air, food and water as the most necessary of ingredients for existence. And yet, for many people, it’s the hardest thing to find and perhaps even harder to hold on to. Many of my clients have difficulty expressing love for the fear of getting hurt. The truth is you’re not perfect, and neither is your partner. But you can be perfectly imperfect together.

It is the imperfections that make us into something beautiful and unique. In many ways, relating to someone or something is mostly choice and perception. I say this because it is possible to be “in love” with someone one day, but unable to be in the same room with them the next. Our feelings did not change, but the way in which we perceive them may have.  You choose to making this change happen!

Start projecting the real You. Your Authentic Self. You will find yourself not only attractive to others, but becoming more attractive within – on the road to a realistic and satisfying relationship. Being with a committed partner can feel fantastic and safe and all those things in great movies and books. But it’s definitely not the only thing in life worth living for — it sure doesn’t even guarantee happiness.

Begin doing things to make finding the right person easier: Make room for him in your life; Be the kind of person who would attract the kind of man you are looking for; and let your social circle know you are ready and willing to be set up. The one thing you need to stop doing — is obsess about when and whether you’d ever meet Ms. or Mr. Right.

Obsession in itself is negative energy. When you are consumed with such thoughts and you surround yourself with negativity, thus, not living with light.  If and when you do attract someone, it will be of negative vibes and negativity.  Allow yourself to be comfortable and OK with yourself – because you are just fine!  As you begin to smile and accept yourself as you are, you’ll feel lighter and radiate light  –  and watch magic happen!

Enlightenment is said to be the key to everything, and it is the key to Intimacy, because that is the goal of true authenticity. Our Ego presents itself through behaviors that include aggression, defensiveness, anger, neediness, manipulation, and avoidance. In working through these issues, trusting ourselves and learning to surrender to the behaviors that form walls around our hearts, we can attain our True Authentic Self.

Love knows how to form itself. God will do his work if we do ours. Our job is to prepare ourselves for love. When we do, love finds us every time. Being alone is not the same as being lonely.  When you feel lonely, pick up a book, go for a walk, call a friend. You never know, perhaps you’ll meet that one very special person on your next trail or brisk walk!

Spirituality is about the intersection of the human and the divine. So not only is there inner work to be done, there’s also outer work to be done. You might open the door to your own house or apartment and take a brutally honest look: Is this someplace that would feel like home?  How comfortable am I here?  Most importantly, How comfortable am I with myself and my body?

You have to make a space in your heart, in your mind and in your life in order to create authentic human connection and feel Love Within

Love is all around us, all the time. Love is the amniotic fluid of the soul. The issue is when issues of the Ego and our constant emphasis on the realm of the body rather than the realm of love, eclipse the experience of True Love.  Did you know you can “love” someone deeply and yet not “like” them as a person or agree with their actions? Yes – it is very possible. When you understand yourself better and remove negative beliefs and experiences through healing within, you’ll be poised to have greater success in relationships.

The question is: How can you create healthier relationships?

Hypnotherapy can help you transform your pain into acceptance and pleasure, while helping you to create authentic human connections and healthy relationships for life.  These techniques include:

  • Improving trust and  communication
  • Improving conflict resolution and misunderstanding
  • Healing old relationship wounds
  • Helping you appreciate and accept yourself for who you are – just as you are!
  • ….and more

I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.    ~Audrey Hepburn