Overcome Fears & Worry

There can be no fear in knowing ourselves better –our weaknesses make us stronger.  

Anxiety like worry stems from a root that means, “to choke”. And that is just what it does to us.   Anxiety, unlike real fear is always caused by uncertainty. 

Worry:  is the fear we manufacture – it is not authentic.  We choose to worry about something, it does not come to us. Most often, we worry because it provides some secondary reward.  (as a matter of fact, may of our behaviors that others or we consider bad habits also provide us with secondary rewards). 

Worry is a way to avoid change – because when we worry, we don’t  have to do much about the matter.  Worry is a way to avoid admitting powerlessness over something, since by worrying, it seems we are doing something. 

Worry is a cloying way to have connection with others, the idea being that to worry about someone shows love. The other side of this is the belief that not worrying about someone means you don’t care about them.  Worryis a safe protection against future disappointments. Many believe that worrying about something will stop it from happening.The relationship between real fear and worry is analogous to the relationship between pain and suffering. Pain and fear are necessary and valuable components in our lives. Suffering and worry are destructive and unnecessary components of life. 

Fear There are two rules about fear, if you accept them, it can improve your use of it, reduce your fear and may transform your experience of life. 

The very fact that you fear something is solid evidence that it is not happening. Fear summons powerful predictive resources that tell us what might come next – it is that which might come next that we fear – what might happen and not what’s happening. 

e.g.: as you stand near the edge of high cliff, you might fear getting too close. If you stand right at the edge, you no longer fear getting close, you now fear falling.  What you fear is rarely what you think you fear.  There can be no fear in knowing ourselves better –our weaknesses make us stronger. With your intuition and logic better informed, you will have less unwarranted fears of things. You will harness and respect your ability to recognize the power within.

Proust said:  “Only that which is absent can be imagined” In other words, what you imagine just like what you fear is not happening.

Anxiety like worry stems from a root that means, “to choke”. And that is just what it does to us.   Anxiety, unlike real fear is always caused by uncertainty.

Words of FDR- “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”.  

I like to amend this to read as “There is nothing to fear unless and until you feel fear”.

Worry is the fear we manufacture – it is not authentic.  We choose to worry about something, it does not come to us. Most often, we worry because it provides some secondary reward.  (as a matter of fact, may of our behaviors that others or we consider bad habits also provide us with secondary rewards).

Worry is a way to avoid change – because when we worry, we don’t have to do much about the matter.  Worry is a way to avoid admitting powerlessness over something, since by worrying, it seems we are doing something.

Worry is a cloying way to have connection with others, the idea being that to worry about someone shows love. The other side of this is the belief that not worrying about someone means you don’t care about them.  Worry is a safe protection against future disappointments.

Many believe that worrying about something will stop it from happening. The relationship between real fear and worry is analogous to the relationship between pain and suffering. Pain and fear are necessary and valuable components in our lives. Suffering and worry are destructive and unnecessary components of life.

Choose a better thought pattern. 

Relase all that is no longer beneficial to your well-being.